I had the opportunity yesterday afternoon to share with a group of new grad nurses at "Lily's Hospital," as I call it. They were NICU, L&D, and Postpartum nurses. They were all around my age I'd guess, so that was neat that they were peers. I shared about Lily's life and legacy, about my experience at the hospital, the good things and things that can be improved, and tips on giving the best care possible to patients walking through the loss of a precious baby. It was special to do this just a week before Lily's 6th birthday. I never could have imagined giving birth to her there, almost 6 years ago to the day, how far I would come and how God would redeem. And how I would be coming back to the same hospital sharing about my experiences there.
They were attentive and receptive, which I appreciated. It is a gift when I get to share my girl, when I get to do something as a mother. There is purpose in the pain. First, I read something I wrote aloud (which you can read below). Then I played this video (email subscribers click HERE):
Then I shared several of my most treasured keepsake items. To finish everything off, I shared one of my comfort boxes that I'll be donating to the hospital for Lily's birthday next week.
When I was leaving, a couple of the ladies were talking to me and said those who heard Lily's story will take a little piece of Lily and I with them and they won't forget her. That means a lot to me.
This is what I shared (if you don't want to read the entire thing, scroll down and see the things in bold):
It’s an honor to be here with you. Thank you for having me here to share my story… not only my story, but my daughter Lily Katherine's story. I don’t get to call her by name, so when I get to speak her name, when people want to hear her name, it means the world to me. It makes me feel like the mother I am. So often, as a mother with only a child I hold in my heart and none that I hold in my arms, I feel “left out” of the mommy club. But in moments like this when I can share about the very real pregnancy, labor, and birth of a very real little girl, it makes my heart bubble up with the pride of a mother for her child. Because I see how my little girl is impacting this world.
When I was leaving, a couple of the ladies were talking to me and said those who heard Lily's story will take a little piece of Lily and I with them and they won't forget her. That means a lot to me.
This is what I shared (if you don't want to read the entire thing, scroll down and see the things in bold):
It’s an honor to be here with you. Thank you for having me here to share my story… not only my story, but my daughter Lily Katherine's story. I don’t get to call her by name, so when I get to speak her name, when people want to hear her name, it means the world to me. It makes me feel like the mother I am. So often, as a mother with only a child I hold in my heart and none that I hold in my arms, I feel “left out” of the mommy club. But in moments like this when I can share about the very real pregnancy, labor, and birth of a very real little girl, it makes my heart bubble up with the pride of a mother for her child. Because I see how my little girl is impacting this world.
This is a part of her story, the
story that continues to unfold all these years later, even though she is not
here. Yet her legacy continues…
Almost 6 years ago to the day, I came to Rex
Hospital to deliver my beautiful baby girl 2 days past my due date. It
was Tuesday, March 16th, 2010.
We pulled up to the Rex Birthing Center, where I
had seen so many women being pushed out in a wheelchair, with their precious
new baby in their arms.
It was finally my turn.
Finally I was going to be the one
with my babe in my arms, proudly showing her off for everyone to see. We would
get to put Lily in her pink car seat with butterflies and take her home.
Mom went to get the wheelchair to take me in
because I was in too much pain to walk. My sister carried my stuff in for me.
We told the security guard at the front desk that we had already let Dr. M know
we were coming and he checked with the people upstairs. They were all ready for
me.
The elevator took us up to the second floor and we
were instructed to wait in the waiting room up there. As soon as we got in
there, the nurse came to take us to our room. She wheeled me down the hall. I
was nervous, excited, and wide awake.
My room was really nice and cozy. I dimmed the
lights just right because it was still dark out. I had to change into my
hospital gown right away. I remember looking down at my pink socks and pacing
back and forth, back and forth. Mom noticed the birthing ball in the shower and
was going to bring it out. We were just thrilled! I was ready to get an
epidural.
First, my nurse, Shannon, had to make sure I was
eligible to get one. She checked my heart rate and blood pressure, and then,
just as had been done so many times before…that little monitor was put up to my
swollen belly to check Lily's heart rate.
Why wasn't I hearing it right away?
The monitor was moved all over my stomach...high,
low, left, right...still nothing. I looked at my mom, searching her
eyes for comfort. I wanted her eyes to tell me everything was alright.
Perhaps the equipment is faulty, or perhaps Lily is
in a weird position, we both thought to ourselves. At the same time, a
thousand thoughts of “what ifs” were racing through our minds.
I was fullterm and babies don't die at fullterm,
right? So, I honestly wasn't too concerned. We just needed my Dr. in there to
make everything better. I had been to his office so many times before and we
had always heard Lily's heart beating so sure, so strong.
It was the sweetest sound.
Everything is somewhat blurred together in my
memory until Dr. M came in to do an ultrasound. When he came in, right away I
could tell he looked concerned.
Why is he looking that way?
Within seconds, there was Lily on the screen. I
couldn't tell what was going on. Several moments passed. What's going on? Why
isn't he saying anything? I looked up at Shannon and saw tears welling up in
her eyes, threatening to spill over at any time. I'll never forget those
words, those dreadful words that will forever be burned into my memory...
"Hannah, this is where her heart is. And
it's not beating anymore...I'm so sorry."
What?! How could that be?! Is this just a
nightmare?! When will I wake up?! I just want to wake up!!
But, I didn't wake up. It was real.
I was so utterly shocked that I couldn’t cry at first.
All in a single moment, my whole world crumbled
around me and my dreams were shattered. Shaking my head back and forth, the
only words I could string together were “no, no no,” half wanting to plead with
Dr. M to keep looking until her heart somehow started beating again and half
wanting to cry out with tears in my eyes and my arms outstretched to the
Heavens,
God can I please have her back?!
But, there was nothing my doctor could do and there
was nothing we could do...but cry.
It all felt like a dream. A horrible, horrible
nightmare. I glanced over at my little sister, just shy of 16 at the time,
having to carry this heavy burden of knowing her first niece had slipped away
before she ever got to say hello. Seeing the quiet tears streaming down her
face jolted me into this truth I had to face.
My little girl was gone.
Deep belly sobs rattled me to the core and I felt
that ache in my heart that only comes from knowing your child is in the arms of
the Lord, rather than here. Strong contractions coursing through my body
were like salt on a wound, a bitter reminder that I had to deliver the body of
my child who was already waiting for me in Heaven.
Thankfully, I soon had an epidural. I would have
been nervous, but because of this news, I didn't care. I just wanted the pain
to stop...the physical pain, emotional pain...the physical pain didn't seem to
matter much anymore. It seemed so stupid now that I had been stressing about
it. The emotional pain, though, was excruciating.
My whole life I had feared giving birth to a child.
And now, here I was, having to give birth to my daughter of Heaven. At only
20-years of age. I asked Dr. M if I could have a c-section and he said for my
health and for the health of future pregnancies, he wanted us to continue with
a delivery, as long as I kept dilating and labor continued to progress. I
didn’t put up a fight… which I’m so thankful for now. I had no idea how
beautiful her birth would be.
My mom called my dad and told him what happened. He
and my brothers had planned on coming a few hours later. They couldn't believe
it. Nobody could believe it. I mean, I was 2 days past my due date, I had a
healthy and normal pregnancy, Lily was healthy, had a strong heart...everything
was good. We had just had an ultrasound less than 5 days earlier and everything
was set for delivery. Little did I know that was the last time I'd see her
alive or hear her precious heart beating. So what happened? These thoughts and
questions kept playing and replaying over and over again in my mind.
My mom, sister, and I noticed how cloudy and gloomy
the day was and how the weather outside was a reflection of how we felt. We
talked about how God had prepared us for this without us even realizing it and
how we knew He would be faithful to carry us through. How blessed we are to
have known Lily and all the wonderful times we had with her...how she's changed
us and how we're better people from being a part of her life. How we could see
God working through her life now, and how He already had, and how we know He
will continue to.
Laying in my hospital bed on March 16, I was
suddenly overwhelmed with the depth of the meaning of her name. Both her
first and middle names, Lily Katherine, mean purity and innocence and I
realized that she will forever be pure and innocent.
My mom called a couple people close to us to let
them know what was going on. It was hard to see my loved-ones eyes full of
tears. I didn't want others to have to go through this pain of losing a niece,
granddaughter, great-granddaughter, cousin. The loss of a baby impacts
SO.MANY.PEOPLE. And it is lifelong. It is never something you “get over.” We
will always wonder who Lily would be today and all that her full life would
have held. We will always miss and love her beyond measure. She is
irreplaceable.
My family waited in the waiting room downstairs,
crying, surrounded by staring people. Happy people. Waiting for
their sister, daughter, friend to give birth to a healthy baby. That
was to be us...
Instead, my family awaited news on the birth of our
precious girl who would never take a breath. It breaks my heart to think of
them surrounded by joyfully expectant families, with pink or blue
congratulatory balloons. They were puffy-eyed and broken-hearted. It seems
wrong for grieving families to be put in the same room with happy families. It
somehow makes the pain of loss cut deeper, when you see all these families
around you, knowing that every year on that date, their little one will share a
birthday with your child. Only yours will forever remain a baby.
All these
years later, I can still feel anxious just walking through the waiting room
when I come to Rex. And not to mention the area outside where a man is there to
install infant car seats.
Throughout my pregnancy, when I would go to my
prenatal appointments in the building next to the birth center, I dreamed of
when I would soon be wheeled out of the birth center, showing off my new baby.
As I said before, it would finally be my turn. Only, I never
got that moment. Instead, I was wheeled out with only a few tangible keepsakes
to remember my daughter.
We had a leaf with a teardrop hanging on our door,
to inform nurses and doctors that whoever was inside that room has a baby
that didn't survive. My mom was the first to notice it. It really broke her
heart to see it. Another thing that broke her heart was hearing in the room
next door, a baby's heartbeat...what I should have heard that morning. I dream
of all hospitals one day having a special suite for families to deliver their
babies who have either already passed or are expected to. The sound of an
unborn baby's heart beating can be haunting when you are met with only silence.
We were all in that room together, sitting there.
Still. Quiet. What was there to say? There were a lot of
tears. A lot of pain. I was so tired, but couldn't sleep. I rested my eyes for
a while.
My nurse, Lanie, was absolutely wonderful. She took
such good care of me. Taking care of my every need, she went above and beyond
her job duties. She made me as comfortable as I could be under the
circumstances. I am so thankful for her compassion. Before going to the
hospital, I was concerned I wouldn't “click” with my nurses and I would feel
uncomfortable with them. But, the opposite is true. I actually consider Lanie
and Shannon my friends now. I could never thank them enough.
Time kept passing. The hours kept passing. Soon, it
was afternoon. I knew the time was coming that I would have to deliver my
baby's body. Her body was still in my body, but her soul was with Jesus. How
strange it was to think that.
I kept dilating and labor kept progressing at a
good rate. At around 3 p.m., I was dilated all the way and my body felt ready
to push. I put it off for a while because I didn't want to do it. I didn't want
to have to hold her like that. I didn't know what to expect with the delivery.
I didn't know how she would look, having already passed. Quite frankly, I was
frightened. By 4 p.m., it was time. Every one left the room except for my mom
and sister. Lanie and Dr. M were both in the room.
Within 15 to 20 minutes of
pushing, she was in my arms.
Lily Katherine Allen-Ball
born on March 16, 2010
at 4:24 p.m.
she was 7 pounds 9 ounces
and 21 inches
she looked just like her mommy :)
I remember the first time my eyes saw her little
body. It is an image that will forever be in my mind. Lifeless. Quiet. Still.
The silence was deafening. No screaming and crying, or squirming around. I just
wanted to hear her little cry...I never got to hear her cry. I never got to
gaze into her eyes, into her soul. I will always be haunted by that. Blue eyes,
that’s what I imagine she had… blue eyes like both her parents. My heart was
breaking. The tears were streaming down my face. I had pictured this moment my
entire life, always longing with everything in me to be a mother. But, I never
pictured it like this. Her body felt warm, like she was alive, only
sleeping. She was beautiful. Perfect. Every detail of her just right.
She was the most beautiful baby I have ever seen. Why had I been afraid? Her
little nose was the first thing I noticed about her, so tiny and adorable. It
looked like a miniature version of mine. I memorized every part of her. Every
part of her, forever engraved in my mind. Wow, God made this perfect little
person in only 9 months. He chose me to carry her....
She had short little eyelashes like mine, almost nonexistent eyebrows, chubby
cheeks and the same chin as mine, and the cutest heart-shaped lips. Mom said
her lips were even like mine. Everyone said she looked like me. To this, I
jokingly said, "poor thing." It was true though. Looking back at
pictures of me as a newborn, I looked just like her. Her legs were even the
same shape as mine. She had the same thumbs as me too. Her tiny fingers and
toes were so cute. I couldn't stop staring at her. I had always imagined her
bald like I was as a baby, but she had beautiful hair (the exact same
shade as mine!), though not very much of it.
Birthing my little girl was a beautiful experience.
I wouldn't change it. It made me feel more like her mother. I would have done
things for her all her life, had she lived. But, she didn't, so this felt like
one of the only and final things I could do
for her. I just wish I could have heard her cry, seen her eyes, felt her
breathe, smelt her sweet baby smell.
We took lots of pictures with Lily. I don’t know
how my mom was thinking clearly enough at this point to do that, but I’m
incredibly thankful she did. By this time, Shannon had come back for her next
hospital shift and she requested to have me as her patient again, at least
until I had to be moved to my postpartum room. I would think that a lot of
nurses would have avoided a situation like this, but mine had compassion on me
and actually cared.
Another nurse, I can't remember her name now, had
come in and told me she had a baby who was stillborn 12 years before. She
really understood my pain. It was good to know I wasn't alone and that other
people made it through such a loss before me. Lanie stayed late and helped
Shannon take a mold of Lily's right foot. It took a few attempts because her
little foot was so flat. They also helped with getting her footprints and
handprints… I am so thankful I thought to ask for her handprints too or else I
wouldn’t have them… I wish I had gotten more than one set for my parents and
others to have as well. I also got a little snippet of her hair. They dressed
her in her little pink outfit that we had brought along for her to wear while
meeting all her visitors for the first time. I still wanted her to look her
best and oh, she did. The pink outfit had baby birds, baby chicks, and baby
bunnies on it. She was swaddled in the matching pink blanket and had a cute
pink hat on. It was one of my favorite outfits for her and pink is definitely
her color. :) At times now, I wish I had dressed her myself...but she was so
delicate and I didn't want to hurt her. The nurses were so gentle with her.
They also took some pictures for me. I am so thankful that God was gracious
enough to give me two wonderful, compassionate, sweet nurses. When Lanie left,
she gave me an adorable little panda bear. I'll keep it forever with all of the
other keepsakes that remind me of Lily.
When everyone came in to see Lily and me, I felt so
proud of her. I felt so proud that she was my baby.
Around 9 p.m., I was taken to my postpartum room. I
didn't want to leave Shannon. I didn't think I could possibly have nurses as
dear as she and Lanie had been to me. Shannon placed Lily in my arms and I held
her as I was pushed in the wheelchair to my recovery room. There was a blanket
over her so nobody would see. She was so beautiful. I should
be showing her off right now, I thought. Not hiding her. My
eyes were already so puffy and I'm sure I looked horrible. I couldn't keep from
crying. I saw people looking at me, wondering I'm sure what my story was.
The two nurses I ended up having in my postpartum
room, Kitty and Catie, turned out to be very caring and sweet as well. I could
tell they really cared about me and my Lily. They took excellent care of me,
were very sensitive to my needs, and made me feel completely comfortable. I
could tell they both were trying to keep from crying. They didn't want me to
see them with tears in their eyes. I'm sure they thought it would only make me
feel worse. But I needed to see and know that they cared, that they are human.
Everyone held Lily some more, we took more
pictures, and I rocked her. It was painful to get up, but I had to rock my baby
girl. Just once. I needed to. It felt so natural, holding her,
rocking her...like I was comforting her, when really I was comforting myself.
I didn't want all my visitors to leave that night.
I didn't want to feel lonelier than I already felt. By midnight though,
everyone was gone, but my mom. I was exhausted. I had been up for so many hours
and was physically and emotionally drained. I was afraid to sleep, afraid of
the stillness, the darkness of the night. Lily stayed in my bed that night with
me. I'm so thankful to the hospital for letting me have her for that long. I
held her all night. It was really difficult to sleep, especially with nurses
periodically coming in to check on me. At one point in the night, I started
crying, from the very depths of my soul. I woke my mom up and she cried with
me. All she could say when I cried like that during those first few days was,
"I know...I know." She said it softly, sweetly. Like it was
the only thing to say. And I knew what she meant. I knew she understood. I knew
her heart was breaking for her flower, because I had
lost my flower. Only a mother's love...her heart was breaking
as well because she had lost her precious first granddarling, long hoped for,
long adored.
The hospital chaplain, Carla, came in to talk with
us that next morning, March 17th. It was St. Patrick's Day and I remember
seeing people with green hats and shirts. Whenever someone new came in the room
and I saw the way they looked at me, I couldn't keep from crying. Carla told us
she too had lost a baby herself. I could tell we had a little special place in
her heart. She knew what I was going through. She talked with us and prayed
with us. Twice in the hospital, I was told by staff that they had lost a baby.
I began to realize just how many people live with such a difficult loss. Why
had I never heard about it before then if so many people have experienced it?
It is a life-altering and crushing loss, but so often seems to be swept under
the rug. That is partly why I speak out… for the mothers from decades past who
never felt like they could.
Catie kept coming in to tell me I could leave
whenever I felt up to it, but I didn't want to leave. Leaving meant leaving the
hospital...without Lily. Leaving meant going home with empty arms. I was
alone with Lily for only a short amount of time during the stay at the
hospital. But, in that time, I spoke with her, hugged her, kissed her, knowing
these would be the only moments I would ever have alone with my little girl, my
first-born baby.
From the time we found out Lily's heart was no
longer beating to the following afternoon, I couldn't decide if I wanted to
have an autopsy done or not. I asked several people their opinion on what I
should do. I wanted to make sure I could see her again in her burial outfit. It
was supposed to be her going home from the hospital outfit, but
instead it was her going home to Jesus outfit. I remember feeling
like it didn't matter what the results of an autopsy would show because it wouldn't
bring her back. I prayed that if the Lord wanted me to have one done that it
would work out because I had no idea what to do. At first I said no, but the
staff later said the hospital was offering to do it for me free of charge, so I
accepted. I had no idea that I would eventually be extremely thankful for this
decision so I could have some answers. I am thankful they gently brought it up
more than once to give me time to think and make a decision I was not prepared
to have to make. You never think that the words “baby” and “autopsy” belong in
the same sentence.
Early afternoon, Catie came in and told me they had
to take Lily away. I could tell it broke her heart to tell me this. I burst
into tears, asking if that meant I wouldn't get to see her again at the
hospital. No. No. No. I can't let her go. She's mine! Just go
away. Less than 24 hours with her...that's all I had. I had to fit an
entire lifetime's worth of hugs, kisses, and memories into less than a day. After
a few moments alone with my precious princess, I collected myself and placed
Lily in the little baby cart that I had seen newborns taken to the nursery in.
But, she wasn't going to the nursery. A blanket was placed over her. It was the
hardest thing I ever had to do, to let go of her. In tears, I
watched as they took her away from me, down the hallway and around the corner,
out of site.
She was gone.
I asked to have the blanket and outfit she was in
and I'm so glad they were able to get them back to me. I'll keep them forever
with Lily's things. After Lily left, I walked slowly down the hallway. Crying.
I didn't know what to do without her there. My mind knew she was gone, but my
body, my heart was longing for her. I couldn't explain to my body that there
wasn't a baby to nurse, there wasn't a baby to hold. My arms were lost without
her. I noticed on one of the doors a big pink ribbon. I figured a family was in
there, happy. A new baby girl in their arms. It didn't seem fair. On my door,
there was that dreadful leaf with a teardrop on it. How could this be me?
The nurses gave me everything I would need to
physically heal in the coming weeks. And we packed up and left...with empty,
aching arms and broken dreams and hearts. All I had was a small white pouch,
with memories of my little girl. Proof that she was real. I asked to be taken
out the main entrance. I didn't want to have to see all the happy new mothers
with their babies in the birthing center. I wondered what I was supposed to do?
Where I was supposed to go from there? How strange it was to get in the car and
leave with less than what I had come with. I remember thinking I should be
sitting in the back seat, with a precious new life beside me. Instead, I rode
home in the front seat, empty car seat in back.
At my 6-week postpartum check-up, I sat in my Dr.’s
office, surrounded by all the familiar sights, sounds, smells of my pregnancy,
of when she was alive inside of me. It was so difficult to be back in that
office.
Sitting across from Dr. M, he told us there is no
medical explanation for why Lily died. Honestly, this is what I expected. I was
just waiting to hear the words from him. I know there was nothing I did and
nothing I could have done that would have saved her. In the future, if I have
more babies, I will be considered high-risk.
I will always wish I would have taken more photos
and gathered more mementos. But I am thankful for what I do have
and realize that no matter what I had, it would never be enough because it’s
Lily that I truly want here.
March 16th, 2010
was a day that has forever shaped my life. It was tragic and sad… but it was
also beautiful. Yes, Lily died…. But before that she LIVED. And her birth was
beautiful. Her life changed mine and I am forever thankful for the gift of her.
I don’t want her death to overshadow her life. I don’t want to focus on the
sorrow, but choose to look for the beauty among the ashes. I choose to look for
ways to mother her legacy and make her proud.
It has been such a joy to get involved with the
Perinatal Bereavement Committee here at Rex Hospital. The ladies are absolutely
precious and genuinely care deeply about their patients, including those who
are experiencing the loss of a baby. I want to thank them for allowing me to
mother my Lily by sharing my experiences, by giving comfort boxes to be
distributed to other families walking through a loss similar to what I walked
through, and by asking me to be involved in different ways, such as coming
today. It has been a blessing to see how sharing about Lily and my experience
has already caused some things to change… such as the leaf with the teardrop
logo being changed to a beautiful logo with a heart and butterflies
incorporated with the colors from the Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness
Ribbon.
I also share regularly on my blog and have
connected to many women, both online and in person, who have also lost a baby.
This summer, I am planning on becoming a certified
Birth and Bereavement Doula, to be even more adequately prepared to reach out
to families walking through the loss of a precious baby.
The fact that miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant
loss occur far too often doesn't lessen the pain for those who experience it.
Please don't let this just be a "job" for you. This is our life,
these are our children.
I don’t know if nurses and doctors realize that we,
their patients, remember them and their care forever, whether good or bad. And
even the seemingly small things are big to us and can greatly shape our
experience. This is the only time on the only day we have with
our precious children. And you will forever be a part of it... a part of our
memories, and a part of our baby's lives. You were one of the only people to
see our baby and that is a sacred and beautiful thing.
When someone is in this situation, many times they
are not expecting it. Therefore, it is up to you to be prepared to essentially
"think for them," to help them make decisions that they will not
regret later. Gently guide them through decisions that need to be made. Will
they choose cremation or burial? What about having an autopsy done? Give them
time to decide these things.
Do they want pictures? Perhaps suggest they take
them, so that they can have them if they choose to look at them later.
Encourage them that many parents who have been through this before them are
incredibly thankful for photos. It can be a scary thing to think of having
photos of a baby not living, but they are treasured by me now.
Our bodies don't understand that our baby died. Go
over their options regarding their milk coming in... do they want it to dry up
as quickly as possible? Would they like to donate their milk, as some
women find great purpose and healing in?
Say their baby's name. Treat their baby with love
and dignity. Don't act like they are scary because they are dead and because of
how they might look. See them the way their parents do - as perfect and
beautiful. Tell them they are beautiful. Tell them how cute their little
eyelashes are and what a beautiful color their hair is.
Cry with the parents if you feel the need to cry.
You can maintain a level of professionalism while still showing love and
compassion.
Help them collect keepsakes that they will cherish
the rest of their lives…. The only tangible things that are truly of their
baby, the things they will look at when they need reminded that they didn’t
dream their child up. Footprints, handprints (possibly multiple copies),
lockets of hair, foot mold, tape measurer, bracelet, a beautiful outfit, a
blanket, etc… what are the resources you have that you can give them?
How you care for those walking through tragedy can
impact how you care for those with only joy. It is a reminder that life is so
very precious and fragile. Tomorrow is not guaranteed.
Assure them that it is not their fault that their
baby died. Understand that everyone is different, but there are common themes
I’ve found among those who’ve experienced this type of loss. Even if they don’t
seem like they are appreciative of what you are doing in the moment, understand
that it is a time of crisis. Even if they scream and cry and are scared or
angry, continue to be gentle and loving. Continue to pour your heart into this
valuable and sacred work. Thank you for what you will do for your patients, in
the hard and happy times. Never stop learning, never stop growing as a person
and as a nurse.
Every year, I must learn to navigate fresh
unfamiliar grief waters. This year, Lily would be in Kindergarten.
I will end with this beautiful poem
that captures how my heart is forever knit to Lily's:
My Little One, My Dear One, My Love
By Edward Searl
My little one, my dear one, my love,
you will be with me forever:
in the thin sunlight and long shadows
of a clear winter's day;
in the dawn excitement of birds
sounding in early spring;
in the rustle of heavy-leafed trees
in a mid-summer's night;
in the rich aromas and bright colors
of a warm autumn day.
All that is excellent,
brushed by Life's
brightness and shadow,
will remind me of you,
My little one, my dear one, my love.
You will beat with my heart,
see through my eyes,
hear with my ears,
feel on my skin.
Because your soul is mingled with my soul, forever,
My little one, my dear one, my love.
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